Category: Spiritual Abuse

Clarifications, Corrections and Apologies

Throughout the life of this blog, not only has my spirit morphed and changed, but my purpose and motivation. In the early days of exiting from Spiritual Abuse and a high-control environment, I was angry, bitter at times, and retaliatory at others. Through the years of counseling others in my ministry, I have seen the same pattern play out time and time again.

Convinced, or Convicted?

I recall a woman telling me about taking her son to a football game for the first time who had to leave early in a panic attack, because she had been convinced for so long that if Jesus came back for his Bride, and you were at a ball game, you would be left behind! “For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power, and love and self control.”

Can Christians have Tattoos?

What is crazy is that people are STILL asking this question! In balance, it’s also healthy that people are asking this question. I believe at the heart of most Christians is a desire to please God – and on the other side of the coin, there are others who use […]

What is Biblical Modesty?

And to them,¬†modesty had nothing to do with trimming an inch of split ends, or short vs. long sleeve shirts, or pants vs. dresses (pants and dresses weren’t even invented then…) Modesty was decorum – it was having controlled and honorable character and behavior, and where that really matters, is in the public eye.

Vague Dogma: Holy Magic Underwear

Have you ever heard of the secret under clothing worn by Mormons and was curious what it was? Is it really Holy Magic Underwear? Where did the idea come from, and do they still practice it? We answer all of those questions here!

When Church Invades Your Home

Does the church belong in your home? Should your pastor setup monitoring systems on your computers and be given rights to check your drawers when he wants to? The abusive system of Oneness Pentecostalism leans that way, and some pastors have demanded that right. You should be warned, that it is a cult.

Church Standards vs. Law – Are they really the same thing?

If you church teaches dress and behavior standards that you must abide by in your own personal life, while not at church, they have made new Laws of salvation. This is legalism at its purest and darkest form.

My Response to an Apostoloc Pentecostal on John 3:8

Have you ever been told ‘You must Speak in Tongues in order to be saved’? Have you had the same Scriptures shot-gunned at you about the topic, like John 3:8 where Jesus told Nicodemus, “Everyone that is born of the spirit will speak in tongues!” Only problem – that isn’t what Jesus told Nicodemus…

Pastoral Authority: What are the limits?

Does a Pastor have Apostolic Authority? Does he have the right to demand your obedience to his commands, or is the role of a pastor to command obedience to Christ? The real test is this: Is your loyalty to Christ alone, or are you Loyal to Christ through your Pastor?

The Traumatic Damage of Bad Religion, Pentecostalism (Oneness) and Cults, and Healing

Over the weekend I went looking for more books to read. Last week I found the History of Early Christianity and have been enjoying reading through that. This weekend I found the book Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome. This is not a mockery of PTSD, or other trauma-related¬†issues, but seemingly a mirror […]