Biblical Headship – Who’s in Control?

There is a lot of debate, and concern when it comes to biblical authority, headship, and leadership. The three terms are of course not synonymous, but coming from a very legalistic background like I am, these terms were morphed into one synonym; Pastor.

Modern Christianity that bends towards authoritarian leadership style focuses heavily on finding Scripture that teaches, ‘I am in charge’, often teaching ‘submission to man’ as if it was the greatest commandment, that ‘oversight’ means spiritual fatherhood and headship. Does it?

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The New Birth – Are Pentecostals/Legalists getting it wrong? Part #1

Recently I was asked by a person who is in the United Pentecostal Church system what my thoughts are on the New Birth, the Trinity (mainstream Pentecostalism denies the Trinity) and Speaking in Tongues, and how to reconcile the fact that Pentecostals believe anyone who doesn’t speak in tongues, or believes in the Trinity, or is baptized unto the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost are lost.

What is stunning, and normal all at the same time, is that this person came in secrecy, knowing, like Nicodemus did, what the repercussions would be if their peers in Pentecost knew the questions this person was asking. Fear of man is the kingdom of Satan and any church system that uses fear this way is the daughter work of Satan.

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Surviving the ‘You cannot be saved if…’ Gospel

I am ever amazed at the litany of ideas men will conjure up in God’s stead, ideas of what God requires and what God hates, things not found in His Word, His Handbook, nor inspired by His Spirit, yet, and ironically, the legalists cling to their rules & regulations is if it was a childs safety blanket, living in fear of what monster stares at them, waiting for them to peak out of the blanket. Why is that?

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You have a problem with Authority!

This is a very common line spoken in legalistic circles. People who ask questions, or who see the Scriptural evidence against the structure being taught are marked as rebellious. Dividers of the brethren. You are the wolf in sheep’s clothing. And perhaps, in these cases, you should be.

A very wise young man asked recently, ‘Why wouldn’t they want your questions? It would give them a chance to prove their stance and have dialogue. If they don’t like questions, then they probably have no answer.”

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Regaining the Joy of your Salvation

Recently, a lady named Christina Whitehead shared her story with me about leaving a spiritually abusive church system and how that affected her relationship with God, faith, her self-worth, her family, and her life. I will share her story another time, but something she said sparked the desire to write this article about regaining the Joy of your Salvation!

Christina wrote, “I became a people pleaser or Pastor pleaser. He said jump, I asked how high? My focus got off of God and the joy of my salvation and onto what was required of me.”

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Got a Question? Just ASK?

In the hopes of extending the works of, we have created an Ask? page on the blog to allow anyone to ask questions anonymously. There are many excellent websites out there, such as, so we will just be another avenue for you to ask things you might not normally have the ability to.

As found in our article Exposing the Gospel of Fear, denying your right to ask questions, or marking you as rebellious for asking questions is a real threat to faith, and it happens. Questions challenge the position of people who claim authority.

That is why is an open, public, non-denominational, no donations accepted organization. Our purpose is to spread Christ’s Gospel the way He meant it to be spread, with love, and grace.

We look forward to your questions! As with everything we do, our only request is that you remain respectful in your questions and of others opinions. If you want to keep your questions entirely private, you can use our Contact page as an alternative to the Ask page.

God Bless,


Exposing the Gospel of Fear: Fearmongering

Dictators, Cult leaders, and Abusers all use fear to control their victims. Fear of retribution, fear of being alone, or losing self without their presence, fear of the ‘outside’, fear that they are right and all else is wrong. Fear that without them, you are nothing. Fear is the most powerful driving force known to man, right next to love. It is no surprise then, that it’s the best tool of the enemy of your soul.

Knowing it has this power, men, and women who use it are then evil and workers of iniquity either by purpose, or ignorance.

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Addressing Pentecostals – Are you all the same?

So recently, I’ve had several #dyedinthewool Pentecostals attack me, mostly on Social Media for the things I write about, expressing my 15-year experience in an abusive Pentecostal church. And as I told one lady the other day who tried to claim I was nothing but a root of bitterness that was defiling the body of Christ, I can’t criticize her for her stock, religious response. No doubt it’s what she’s been trained to say her whole life. I was too.

My old pastor said ‘I don’t have time for people who question what I say.’ In recent services focused to discredit my writings, the pastor literally said, ‘If anyone tells you something other than what I say, just rebuke them in Jesus name and don’t listen to them.’

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Goodbye. I’m off to Paradise.

No really, in about 20 hours my journey from Oregon -> San Francisco, from San Francisco -> Hawaii begins, embarking on a much needed 12 days get away with family, and no work. Ok who am I kidding, I’m sure work will follow. But I am off to paradise!

My thoughts, however, linger on my dear mother, who passed from this life January 20th, 2017. I believe she is in the real paradise, and some of her last words to me were, ‘Ralph, you said I could go home.’ And she did!

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