Tag: UPCI

Is disagreeing with a Church Doctrine just being bitter?

It seems that the most common phrase of religious abusers, and those who are bought in to the abusive system, attacking someone who questions their system, is “You are just bitter”. This defense mechanism holds to weight of fact, evidence or Scripture. Ignore it.

Returning to Abuse: As a Dog returns to its Vomit

Why does the abused victim return to the abuser? What causes a dog to lick up the bile that was rejected by its body? Why would someone leave a cult and feel compelled to return? The Cycle of Abuse is recognizable and understandable, as sad as it is.

Is your faith being hijacked by controlling leaders?

Have you ever asked yourself ‘How did I end up here? What choices did I make that brought me to this moment?’ You might have asked this about your marriage, your job, some circumstance in your life that when you got there – it left you bewildered and confused. It […]

Video Version: Coping with the Cults Part #1 – Separation

The most common question I am asked, the top concern and hurt I see through my YouTube channel, this blog, interviews and online groups, is ‘How do I cope with the pain of all those I loved who now reject me, simply because I no longer go to church there?’

Breeches & Trousers, Pants & Skirts – The truth about Men’s Clothing

There are modern churches that decree women can only wear dresses/skirts. Pants are men’s only clothing they claim this is directly related to Deuteronomy 22:5 “The woman shall not wear that which pertains unto a man”. But is it?

Tithing vs. Giving – Is there a difference or is it just semantics?

Some say tithing, some say giving. For churches that teach Tithing as a Biblical mandate, do they really mean the Spirit of Giving, or are they teaching the Old Testament taxation called Tithing?

Catch and Release, or Catch and Devour Pastors

The role of a pastor is to guide and protect the people of God, but also to create disciples. Some pastors catch men, train them, and then release them. But does your pastor hoard the flock, gaining wealth and power from them?

Coping with the Cults – Part #2 – Judgementalism

Since leaving a cult, I have delved into studying, writing, reading, talking and coping with the very real, sometimes hidden, but obvious affects cults and their teachings have on lives. Most certainly the very word ‘cult’ conjures up the worst horrors to hit the news headlines, like Jamestown, or Waco, […]