Do you have a question? Perhaps something you are afraid to ask your Pastor, or Parents, or your friends, or God?


You should never be afraid to ask a question, for there are no bad questions. And, you should never be afraid to ask your Pastor, or Parents, and especially God. But I am human too, and I have been afraid to ask questions of those people, and even God before.

I used to believe the only bad question was the question you knew the answer to. But, what if you just needed reassurance? What if you think you know the answer but are second guessing yourself?

The Bible holds the answers, I believe, to all of the mysteries of life. Please, ask your questions below, anonymously and we will provide answers using the Word of God that we feel addresses your question. All you have to do, is ASK?

*Disclaimer is not a licensed counselor nor can we provide legal advice. We simply seek to use God’s Word to help navigate this journey we call Life. It can be daunting, confusing, strange, and rewarding. God provided us a manual for the challenges, it is up to you to navigate the map of life.


2 thoughts on “Ask?

  1. I left the Pentecostals church a few months back. The mental abuse was unreal that I experienced there… situation is even harder because my husband and his entire family still go to an apostolic church. I am treated like a backslider, sinner going straight to hell because I have attended other churches and have cut my hair and wear pants now. They tell me how disappointed they are and my own husband tells me…I prayed for an apostolic women and now you are not apostolic….. How can I heal from all of this. How can I handle the…..disapproving looks and comments….I had a women see me at a thrift store I was in…..I saw here when I drove away peaking out the the window stairing at me….then posted on facebook it broke her heart to see me there but I was just a friend for a season and how she will just pray for me……oh and this was the pastor’s wife. The abuse I have faced always seems so hard to deal with at times….

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    1. How sorry I am that you have to go through this! In my fifteen years in an abusive, Apostolic Pentecostal church I have seen this scenario play out dozens, if not hundreds of times. With friends, and even my own family.

      It is this very scenario that proves it to be a false church, or else they would not be so harsh and judgmental. Consider, that our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, never once condemned, judged or ridiculed anyone, EXCEPT the Pharisees, which were the judgmental rules and authorities that declared ‘Unless you dress and pray like us, you are less than us.’

      When the women caught in adultery was brought before Jesus, we can marvel at his compassion and understanding, and most importantly, His forgiveness, something those who are shaming you need to study well.

      Joh 8:10  When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 
      Joh 8:11  She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

      Neither do I condemn you! Here, Jesus offered no condemnation to a women caught in the most immoral sin, and yet modern day Legalists, and Pharisees (Apostolic Preachers in this case) will ridicule, condemn and judge you for your clothing, or your hair, or whether or not you attend their church. Likewise, those who follow that man will also condemn you, because their duty is to follow, imitate and obey their man of God. If they don’t, they too would be cannibalized, just as you are being eaten by their hate.

      The best way to deal with the judgmental ways, and this will not make it easier, is to realize with compassion that they are only behaving in the ways they have been taught to, and are pressured internally to maintain that behavior, lest they too be considered a ‘compromiser’ or ‘backslider’ for harboring you.

      There are two types of people that leave abusive religion. The first, are those who merely rebel and reject control because they want to enjoy the pleasures of things restricted to them. These generally will fall into harder times, because the flood gates are opened up to them.

      The other type, the type I prayed to be, was one who saw the reality of how bad the situation was, and prayed and did all I could to make sure my pendulum did not swing so far the opposite direction, that I would prove to those who ridicule me they are right. In other words, if you keep yourself with a right attitude, and show them that you haven’t turned into the adulteress dunk they think you will, then that light will open (possibly) their eyes to the reality that perhaps their way of thinking isn’t all correct.

      For instance, after I left the abusive church I was in, my son moved out of my home, at the recommendation of the pastor, and was willing to cut me off. Over time however, he began to realize the things I was saying (refuting legalism) was right, because I simply stood on Scripture, and that I didn’t turn into the crazy person they proclaim you will be. Rememeber their stories, how if you leave ‘Truth’ you’ll become seven times worse than when you came into ‘Truth’. It’s rubbish, and my son saw the fallacy of it. Now, he has left that church and is learning to find what God wants for him the correct way, by seeking God rather than seeking to please and obey the man, the pastor.

      I pray so much strength upon you, that in your hours, months, even years of turmoil, you’ll realize the grace of God and turn to him for peace! Let me leave you with a few scriptures to meditate on and I am always open to you personally, for prayer and for support. I would also recommend you connect up with, on their website, and on Facebook. It is a great support for us Ex-Pentecostals.

      Rom 14:13  Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way. 

      Rom 14:22  Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth. 

      Gal 5:1  Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. 
      Gal 5:2  Behold, I Paul say unto you, that if ye be circumcised, Christ shall profit you nothing. 
      Gal 5:3  For I testify again to every man that is circumcised, that he is a debtor to do the whole law. 
      Gal 5:4  Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace. 

      Gal 5:14  For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 
      Gal 5:15  But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. 


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